#20 – How I got into university

Okay, first of all, I want to say that there’s not just one way to get into uni or the job you want there are many ways to end up at your intended destination, this was just mine.

When I was studying A-Levels, I was revising but in the second year, I just didn’t go into college, when I did go in, I would spend hours in the library, just studying, but this wasn’t enough.

My friends from high school were incredibly smart, and I always felt like the loose link, yes I was in most of the top sets, but in our group, I would be the one who got a grade less than them, I always knew they would get into great uni’s becasue they were very intelligent, and I felt a pressure to be just as smart as them, so I felt I actually did belong in the group and I wasn’t the stupid friend.

In hindsight I shouldn’t have cared as much as I did, I just didn’t want to be seen as stupid and I didn’t want anyone to be like they got into all Russell group unis and Katy didn’t. So I felt an added pressure, that I put on myself, and when I feel like I was underperforming, I crumbled and cracked and I got into my own head. I feel this why now I don’t put as much effort into things, so I am not disappointed when things don’t work out.

So back to my story, I wasn’t attending college as much as I should have done, but I was revising. In my second year, I stupidly decided to listen to my college teachers and redo 4 of my first-year exams, as well as doing 6 second-year exams. I did this because they said I could get better grades when in most of them I got B’s.

This added unnecessary pressure that I didn’t need. My law teacher also wanted me to resit my first-year law exams and he wouldn’t listen to me when I said no. If I caved I would have had to resit ALL of my first-year exams, which is probably some advice I can pass, don’t go past your limit, don’t do something because someone else wants you to and just because they are teachers doesn’t mean they are always right and that you should listen to them.

It might seem like I am blaming my teachers, they were 20% of the reason why I failed, but it was completely my fault. If I worked hard I could have done it easy. I probably sat more exams, doing more subjects and was under a lot more pressure when I was doing my GCSE’s, so I could have done it if I tried.

That being said, that morning, when the results were on UCAS, I was excited. I and my friends were texting in our group chat, eager at 8 in the morning to see if we got into the university of our dreams.

When applying to uni I probably didn’t take it as seriously as I should have done. I only visited Exter uni, and I only looked at the upper class, high end, Russel Group unis. I didn’t look at uni’s that would accept low grades, because I thought that I would get high grades. I should have had a plan B, it was stupid of me to think that I didn’t need a backup plan, which is why now I always try and have a backup plan. I only looked at these uni’s because my friends were looking at these uni’s, I didn’t think of myself and what was best for me.

Probably taught me I need to be more selfish, which I have learnt and been, a great lesson to learn.

That morning I was eager to know if I would be going to the place that Harry Potter was created. As I saw that I was rejected, gave me the biggest hole in my heart, I started to ball my eyes out and my mum ran down the stairs. I felt like I was a failure, that I wasn’t going to end up anywhere (I never want to feel like that again).

Sidenote; I feel a lot that parents, school and society put pressure on us kids to do what they want us to. To me, going to uni was the only option, we weren’t taught about apprenticeships or about foundation years, it broke me when I didn’t get into Exeter. The emotions I felt, are what children should never feel like we aren’t good enough.

So that morning after crying, I spoke to my mum and dad, and we were working on ways I could go to uni. I thought about going to open university but eventually decided to apply to foundation courses to uni’s I never thought about, through the process of clearing.

The clearing is a system that matches university applicants who haven’t had an offer with institutions that still have unfilled places. A foundation course is a course that makes up for the credits that you don’t have to get you into the first year of a degree course. I had 1 C and 2 D’s, so I needed extra credit to get onto the proper degree course.

When applying to the foundation courses, I switched what I wanted to do. I applied to every uni and wrote my personal statement on Archeology and Anthropology, then switched at the last minute to do a foundation course in Journalism because I thought it would be cool to interview celebrities one day.

Even though it was a conventional way to get to where I wanted to be, I am so glad it happened and I wouldn’t change a thing that happened.

There are many different options to get to where you want to be, so what I would say is research what you want. If the job you want is something you don’t need a degree for, what do you need for it? What do you need to do to get into that field? Do what you want to do.

A foundation course is great to decide if uni is actually for you, or if the course you think you might want to do is actually what you want to do. A guy in our course switched to do game design, becaus the foundation course taught him that he didn’t want to do journalism.

It is a very daunting and stressful time, don’t put any unnecessary pressure on yourself and remember every once in a while to take a break.

Katy Nella xoxo

#19 – University is some of your best years

People say that high school is some of your best years, but I disagree. There can be so much turmoil for people when they think of their high school years. There is so much bullying in high school, people are with people that they have been with since primary school and many of the relationships that you have with people are just relationships of circumstance. You don’t have people that are truly for you.

University is full of people that are truly your people. You can explore yourself fully and completely without judgement and there is less to little no bullying at uni.

In western society, we are taught that if you don’t have a job that you are nothing. All our life has been school from the ages of 4 – 18, if you go to uni it’s 4- 21. That’s a lot of time and pressure to be learning, and it’s full of essays, exams, presentations. It isn’t great for the human brain.

We never have time to just sit and think. Uni is a great time to chill and relax, you are still learning, but you do it at your own pace, you can decide if you want to go to the lectures, and besides doing lectures you are just relaxing and taking a minute to be with yourself and your thoughts.

You can always have a gap year, where that is literally just full of relaxing and doing what you want to do.

Like I said before western society is only about getting a job, working, earning money, then spending that money to keep the economy going, this is Capitalism.

When we don’t have a job, or if we aren’t earning we are told that we are worthless and that we will be nothing if we don’t have a job. This can create a lot of mental turmoil, and it’s unnecessary stress we put on ourselves. And this is why I believe we need to take a break from learning and getting a job.

We never explore the world we are in and when we take breaks and holidays we think “I needed this, I never treat myself”, humans aren’t made to be working machines, we have to treat ourselves constantly and not think that when we have a break that we deserve it, we always desereve to enjoy life.

We have been brainwashed that if we work hard and often that then and only then, we deserve a break. This has been engrained in us since school. If we study hard we will get high grades, if we put blood, sweat and tears into what we do it’s the only way to get the best results. There is no point exerting yourself if it puts your lifebehind your work.

Work and earning has been put into our brains that it will make your life, and that’s all we are put on the earth for. Work and money should add to your life, it shouldn’t be your life.

That’s why I think uni is some of the best years of your life because your head isn’t wrapped in the ‘work and only work’ mentality. You take time on yourself.

When you balance your life, and when you have put yourself first and you spend time on what makes you happy and enjoying your time on earth, then you will be living your best life.

This post is a little confusing, I normally plan posts, but with this one I just let my fingers do the typing. If you have any questions, or you want to discuss the post then please write them in the comments, I am always up for learning.

KatyNella xoxo

#18 – Food for thought

First of all, let me tell you when I started uni in 2015 I was about 10 stone, I had size D titties, I have wide hips and I did alot of squats in college. I am telling you this because whilst I was at uni I went through a big change, ie I gained a lot of weight and I gained it in my ass, tits, legs, ankles and arms.

I have always been a picky eater and I have a phobia of throwing up, so I stay comfortable eating the same food all the time, I rarely broaden my pallet of taste. Moving away from home helped me but also hindered me. I didn’t have the home-made meals that my mum made, but I gained independence.

I learnt how to make new recipes, how different food takes time to cook and it was great to cook food for myself and burn things to learn what I need to do in the future and what tastes I like. You learn how to clean pots – this is very stupid but I dind’t.

When you’re a student you have a little bit of money, you’re living by yourself in a place that has a lot of takeaways and discounts codes. When I lived in Preston Dominoes opened until 3 am and had a 50% discount and I relied on this a lot, it also didnt help the fact that my boyfriend’s mate was the manager at one the Dominoe branches and gave us free pizza.

All of the takeaways I ate have stayed on my body, I am now around 14 stone and a bigger girl than I was. When you’re at uni you have to be wary of what you eat and put into your body as food can influence your mood and energy.

I have only just recently started to eat onions. My flatmate in the second year made bolognese with onions and peppers and I just thought that I want to try that so I made it the next day. It was difficult for me as I didn’t want to throw up , but now I have incorporated them into my cooking and I now haw onions on my hotdog!

So why am I writing this post? To help you when you’re at uni as it can be difficult to make food for yourself with the environment you’re in with outside pressures such as time, stress, money and other flatmates. It is easy to stick a microwave meal in and have that (I had that almost every day) but that wasnt great for me or my body.

Here are some of my tips for ‘food’ when you’re at uni:

  1. Have something new every week to broaden your tastebuds.
  2. Allow yourself some junk food. Uni is very sressful so don’t limit yourself snacks or a takeaway, maybe have one day a week you indulge yourself like on Friday’s have a chippy tea.
  3. Shop at Aldi, Lidl, Poundstretchers. At Aldi the products are really good, there’s lots to choose from and its really cheap so it doesn’t put a dent in your pocket. You can buy a whole weeks worth of shopping for £30.
  4. Create your own recipe book. Write recipes down in a notebook, or find them from magazines or friends and family members.
  5. If you want to eat/do something different, do meat-free Monday. This will broaden your pallet and will introduce a different dynamic to your cooking and you won’t rely on meat to put an ommpft into your meals.
  6. When you cook with a lot of oil, let the pan sit on the side for an hour, then go back and wipe the excess oil with kitchen roll, then place it in the bin. This way the oil won’t clog the drains and the dishwasher.
  7. Clean as you cook. For example, if you are making mash and you place the potatoes in the pan and they are boiling, clean the chopping board and knife and wipe the side. Doing this will make it easier and you won’t feel defeated when you finish and there’s so many things to wash.
  8. If you want to lose weight eating healthier will help towards that, even if thats not your goal, just incorporating healthy eating habits into your life will help you in the long run. This is the time that habits stay with you, not just eating habits but also sleeping habits and working habits etc.

I hope this helps you understand more about food and uni. And I hope this has helped you a little bit. If you want, I might make some recipe posts about the stuff I ate whilst at uni, cause that might help you as well.

Keep broadening your pallet!

KatyNella xoxo

 

 

#17- The real university experience

What is the real university experience?

There aren’t many shows or films that show what the real experience is like, the ones I have seen are Fresh Meat and the Riot Club. Now I don’t know if the Riot Club actually depicts Oxford, or wherever it is based, but Fresh Meat kind of depicts Uni.

The run-down student housing, the drinks at the pub, the different personalities, the arguments, it 70% accurately shows what uni is like from the other side of student life.

The older generation, the media and people who haven’t been to university say that it is a waste of time, students are lazy and that all it is drinking. For the most part, you can argue that these are true, however, I believe they are not.

It is only a waste of time if you don’t put the effort it, it’s only a waste of time if you don’t use the time you have in uni wisely.  But what does a ‘waste of time’ mean? If you’re studying a subject you want to learn about and go into that job, it isn’t a waste of time, even though there are many different ways to get to many jobs, it isn’t a waste of time if you WANT to do it, don’t let anyone define what you want to do. If you want to go to uni and dedicate 3 years to learning your degree, then don’t let anyone tell you it is a waste of time.

Even if you drop out or stop putting in the effort, you still haven’t wasted your time, you are still learning how to live independently, you are meeting new people, learning new skills, experiencing new things that you wouldn’t have if you didn’t go to uni, therefore NOT a waste of time.

My real university experience was full of emotions, ups and downs, stress, laughter and worry. People think that being a student is lazy and that we are not responsible with our money but in reality, the majority of students don’t get enough of a loan to ‘have money’.

I got £5000, and over the four years, that got depleted to about £4,200. That was my student loan. That wasn’t enough the cover my accommodation and have enough to live off the in the year. My average weekly rent over the four years was £100, and I was living in Preston if I got into my first uni choice, which was Exeter, I would have the need to work to afford living there, as their rent was £136 a week.

I was lucky and privileged enough to have monetary help from Aunty, but other students weren’t lucky to have help. Many of us, including my close friends, had to have a part-time job to afford the rent and living in the flat (food, drink, car payments, and of course a little extra money to treat ourselves) so this just adds worry and stress, as the real uni experience is juggling money, the time between classes, studying, assignments, sleep, work, friends, relaxation. It pisses me off when the older generation says that ‘students do fuck all’ when we never really have time to ourselves, which is why when we go out we get drunk, we save up money, to go out and blow off steam.

That is the real uni experience, it is juggling a lot and it is stressful but it is rewarding, it does teach you how to manage and organise your time, even though I can’t physically do it, I am just incapable of organisation but it teaches you what life will be like, in away.

It’s a mini-crash course on adult life, but with the added benefits of you being able to relax and do nothing whilst you are writing essays and clubbing.

That was my real uni experience. I am curious what your real uni experience was, and if you have any misconceptions about uni and students the comment down below and I will discuss your points with you.

KatyNella xo

 

#16 – Are you drifting apart?

When moving to a new place, without a comfort blanket, the protection of your childhood friends, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by meeting new people. If you are worried about this I have another post that you might want to check out.

When you have met new people, and found new friends, like your childhood friends, will do, it is easy to lose contact. It is easy to drift apart.

What do we do in these situations, sometimes we feel sorry for ourselves, wonder what has gone wrong, wonder were you actually friends or just friends by circumstances?

I can tell you now, everyone you meet has an impact on your life, good or bad, they still impact it. And what should you do when you feel your home friends are vanishing from your life?

You need to think are they worth being in your life? Some people you know from an early age are toxic friends, and if you don’t speak to them, you need to figure out why? Did they invalidate you, do you both just forget to send a message, are you the toxic one? Sometimes we keep people in our life for circumstance, it’s like this with all relationships, parents, family members, partners, we keep people in our life that we think deserve to be there.

Mothers and fathers can be really harmful, manipulative, abusive, yet sometimes people keep them in their life because ‘it’s their parents, they are blood, they gave me life’ well, I am telling you know no one who treats you like shit and causes you pain, anxiety and mental abuse shouldn’t be in your life.

Maybe when you drift apart from people you once knew is a good thing, or maybe it means you need to realise that you are the problem in communication is you. This is something that I need to remember and learn, that it is your fault sometimes why there is no communication, I do it a lot and blame other things and I don’t take accountability.

Ask yourself:

  • Are we really drifting apart?
  • Do I want them in my life?
  • Can I do anything to stop us drifting?
  • Were we just friends of circumstances?
  • What can we do to stop drifting?

When you get to Uni you meet so many extraordinary people, and sometimes it’ just will of the universe that some people aren’t in your life now.

What do you think? How can we stop drifting apart from old friends?

Katy Nella xoxo

#15 – Booze, booze and more booze

I know what you are thinking, University life isn’t all about booze. You are right, but also wrong. A big part of Uni culture is drinking excessively, nights out, a pint after a hard lecture and being social.

If you are not a big drinker, then tell the people your limits and that you just want to remain sober.  You don’t have to drink, but there are a lot of people, I know I did, that go out every week, and they are drinking, if you don’t want to be a part of that scene, I suggest finding a group of people that don’t drink, or find people you enjoy spending time with and that you trust to respect your values.

Going on nights out will give you amazing, spectacular but also embarrassing memories, but these are the moments you bond with people, you reminisce about the time your friend went up to someone and shared their jacket, so they both danced like fools, and it was funny, you remember someone being so drunk you had to carry them home.

You learn to go on the next day with a hangover, you learn your limits, you learn how to deal with your embarrassing drunk self. Some awful things happen when people drink, I have broken my wrist, well sprained it I think, but it hurt like a bitch. But you learn how to become an adult and accept the responsibility for your actions.

There will be really hard days where you just want to sit in the pub, and have a pint with your friends, talk shit and just chill. Pubs are an excellent way to meet new people and be more social.

One thing I would say is to be wary of alcohol, as much as I love it, it is a crutch. Know your limits, be out with people you trust, and always drink water when you come in from a night out. But apart from that, enjoy. Enjoy the painful headache the next day, some of your best stories will be from you and people being drunk. You never know you might meet your soulmate out drinking.

You can discover a lot more at Uni, and DRINK RESPONSIBLY when you have drunk an excessive amount it can impair you the next day, or next few days in my case, so just be careful and have fun!

KatyNella xoxo

#14 – Why this is the right time for discovering yourself

In University there is so much time to discover and enlighten yourself. You meet so many different people, you can do so many new things and its the best time to discover your true self.

I think spending time by yourself in your room, truly lets you get to know yourself honestly. You can use this time to discover what music you like, you discover your fashion even more if you like clubbing, what you are like living with other people, you develop your personality, you discover the gym, sports teams if you have never been to one before, you can even explore yourself sexually, see what you like without judgement.

Sometimes life can be a little foggy, that’s when you need to step back and re-evaluate what you truly need and want. And sometimes this fogginess can lead to a clearer, more pristine version of you.

You meet people who will get you and will help you develop. When you go to school in your own village, town etc yes you meet life long friends, but sometimes the people who will make an impact are from all over. You discover and learn about so many different things, you are opened up to new cultures, races and if you go into University with an open-mind it will elevate your already great personality.

You meet yourself. If you learn that you don’t like being by yourself, and your mental health takes a downturn, you can talk to somebody who can help.

University is a judgment-free zone, and if you feel it isn’t one then make it one. Sometimes our home towns can breed toxic and harmful thoughts, highschool we were always told that girls were slags and these views come with us and there are always women on women hate. I learnt that this is a form of the patriarchy, and it took a while for me to get rid of these “views” and stop using the terms ‘slag’, ‘slut’ and ‘whore’ as a means to degrade and hurt women. Going to uni, I think helped me develop my moral compass. In Uni girls, we would always talk about our body count, sexual experiences, what we like and dislike, and there would always be, ‘this might be slaggy’, ‘I am a slag’, we would always degrade ourselves, judge ourselves and it took all of us to realise that we are not and to get rid of years of these thoughts.  And I am glad I have met all the girls I have because if I didn’t I wouldn’t have learnt about feminism and I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

The point I am making is that, when you go to Uni, you don’t just learn about your degree, you learn about life, politics, people, the world, history and my advice? Be open to new learning opportunities.

I am not saying that this is the only way to learn about yourself because everybody has their own path to discovering themselves, the point is you should put yourself out there.

Comment down below some of lessons you have learnt.

KatyNella xoxo

#13 – Meeting new people

It is so difficult meeting new people, for anyone. When you make the decision to go to university, many people are going to a new city, and a school where their close friends aren’t going.

It can be daunting, essentially leaving the group that you have grown with and explored with. This is no way saying that you won’t be friends with them anymore, I am just saying that the security that you had won’t be there as you are in a completely different situation.

Your new flatmates, classmates, accommodation mates, they might get you and your personality they might not, but be rest assured that everyone is in the same boat, and at the end of the day, humans just want the feeling of love and protection, and friends give us this.

The freedom and love to be unapologetically ourselves. In uni, we need this to escape the stress of uni. It is a very stressful time, and having friends just to get drunk with, laugh with and watch Netflix, is honestly a great escape.

There are many different ways you can meet new people and get ready for your time at university:

  1. Look at societies and clubs that you can join – If you look at the student union page, you will see a list of clubs that you can join, as well as sports. These are a great way to find people who have the same interests as you, and that way there won’t be as much awkward conversation. Not to mention they have good nights out, if you are into that sort of thing.
  2. Look on the Facebook pages for your course – Before I started foundation year I went on the Facebook page for Journalism and either typed a post or found one of someone who was going to be in my year. We then started talking on messenger, and the first day we recognised each other and we sat next to one another. Then we went around the fair. To this day this girl is one of my best mates. It’s a great way to meet someone before, it cuts the awkwardness and you have someone to sit next to. This is also a great idea to meet your new flatmates. Go on the accommodation page, type your flat number or look for someone who already has and you can create a group chat, already getting to know the people you’re going to live with for 9 months.
  3. Go out – Go on a night out with your flatmates, this is what I did and we all became close. Just remember to pace yourself, if you don’t feel like you trust them yet. One my first student night out, I didn’t drink a lot, as it was actually my second night out ever, as I only turn 18 in July.
  4. If you don’t like to go out suggest other activities – suggest a game night, movie night, order a take-away, and just talk. The sooner you speak to people, flat and course mates, then it will be easier for you.
  5. Meet people in the same building as you – so you have other people you can chill with. Knock on the flat next door, invite them round. The rapport you build will these people will make it easier if someone is being too loud and should reduce the means for confrontation.
  6. If you know someone whose there, meet up with them – I had a friend who went to the same uni, from college, and it was so much more easier to integrate into the life of a student, cause there was a familiar face there. I knew her, trusted her, so when we went out it was fun and easy. Not to mention that there was someone there that I could talk to and hang out with.
  7. Get to know your course mates – If I didn’t get to know my coursemates then my time at uni would have been shit. I have met the best people and I could not have succeeded without them. You are going to be with these people for a potential of three years, if no one drops out. So just ask to go to the student pub, the cafe during lunch. Try to hang out with them, because these will become the mates you keep.

Those are my tips for meeting new people, please let me know your tips and if these have helped you!

On the topic of friends, I just want to shout out all the girls I met that have become my best mates and just to thank them for putting up with me! So thank you Erryn, Anne-Marie, Sarah, Finola, Vienna and Niccy! There are so many more people I have met, but these are my faves ❤ Love you all ❤

Katy Nella x

#12 – Skipping a few lectures can’t hurt…

We’ve all had them days where we feel like doing nothing, that not getting out of bed nothing, and when we do skip the day, we feel guilty and annoyed at our selves. I am telling you now, that we shouldn’t feel this way.

Whether or not you’re missing the lecture because you’re hungover as fuck, still drunk, have the most painful period pains to date, you haven’t done the reading, you didn’t sleep the night before, your mental state isn’t as great as it was, you’re ill or you just feel like pure shit. We sometimes all need a break, a rest, a moment to chill.

Obviously you can’t skip every lecture or you will fail, but what I am saying is that burnout is real, and the world can catch up on us sometimes.

There were days in uni I missed the lectures because I was hungover, I went in the next day and my lecturer was disappointed and I have never felt more guilty and upset with myself, but I must admit having 10 tequila shots and a variety of doubles gave us the karma the next day.

But I missed some because it was a necessity. TMI but the first day of my period, gives me so much pain I can’t even describe. I can’t walk, I can’t sit and it’s fucking awful. I missed the first lecture of the day most months on the day if there was a lecture. I would take a few paracetamols and I would be able to function for the rest of the day.

The fact that I couldn’t go in annoyed me, as I needed and wanted to attend the lecture. But if I did go, I would be thinking about the pain, the fact that I might bleed through my leggings, “why didn’t I bring my hot water bottle?”. I would not be concentrating and those first few hours in the morning I needed at home to ease the pain and chill before the rest of the day, where my body would have been walking and it would have got so tired. Yes I missed a lecture, but my friends got me the notes, I went to the library and I revised it.

I have friends who missed countless lectures and when they came in they didn’t have a clue on what was going on. One teacher didn’t know that “Jane” was even in his class cause she never showed up, but this was cause they didn’t want to do it anymore, but the point is you have to find balance.

Don’t skip lectures, but if you have to, don’t feel guilty. Sometimes we need that rest day, sometimes you will hate a lecturer and their classes, so maybe skip one then attend the next two then skip one. If you don’t compromise with yourself, there would have been no point in going to uni.

And yes I know some of you right now might be thinking “but we have weekends to rest and chill” NO KAREN, my friends worked part-time jobs at the weekend so they could finance themselves. They would be in uni 3/4 days a week then working 3. We never decide when our brain, mind and soul needs to breathe.

Sometimes I would just wake up and feel like shit, I just felt down and sad for no reason. I wouldn’t want to go in cause I would have to do work when I am not in the right frame of mind and it’s easy to say just get on with it, but it’s easier to watch Netflix and cry and then feel better.

We need a reboot, and that might be when you have a lecture, but c’mon you are doing a lot of work, multiple essays, readings, notes and all whilst trying to balance work, friends, self-care, it’s easy to get wrapped up in everything and feel like you’re suffocating.

So once in a while just do fuck all, and if you miss a lecture then it can get fucked.

Stick that face mask on, grab your self a cuppa and binge-watch Brooklyn Nine-Nine for the 70596th time.

Please don’t miss the important ones, but the ones where you can get your friends to get you the notes, and you can read them in your time when at the library or a cafe, and don’t feel guilty when you do, just hit reset, reboot and you will be ready to tackle the next day.

Your health comes first. You come first – Remember that.

KatyNells xoxo

 

#11 – University Stressfest

University is  a stressful environment.

You are essentially a magnet that eventually attracts stress. Yes, it is fun, there is a lot to do and you’re always busy, but this leads to some of the most stressful days and night of your lives.

The amount of times my eczema has broke out on my skin because I have been stressed in unprecedented. If you were looking for a post about how stress free uni is then you need to find another post.

If you are debating on whether or not to go uni, then just know that it will be stressful. You are going to be balancing a lot on your shoulders, all you need to know is how to deal with it and the you will be fine.

You will have exams, projects upon projects, essays upon essays and on top of that you will have to balance your friends, family and the health of your mind and body. Its all a juggling act, but you learn how to prioritise and work out how you have fun within it.

It is great experience and a great opportunity to learn how to balance all aspects of your life. See uni as a ‘practice’ run of adult life. You get to make mistakes that you may make again in the future but as you have already made them, you have learnt from them. You can learn and see what is the best method for you to balance work projects, how to effectively you split your time. It’s a great way to have trial run, as you have three years to find out what works for you.

My suggestion, even if you aren’t going to uni, find ways that help you relax, whether that be going to the gym, reading a book or watching a film. How I balance my essays and projects, is simple. I work on my essay, or project for 40 mins, then I take a 20 min break and watch netflix, make a brew, put on a face mask, make a snack, then whenever 20 mins has gone by I pause what I am watching and get back to work.

This is how I revise, by breaking up big chunks of revision and giving 20 mins for my brain to relax.

Ways to manage the university stress:

  • Watch a tv series – this way you can watch one episode, get back to work and reward yourself by doing work by watching another episode.
  • Read a book
  • Pamper yourself – Moisturise, do a face mask, give yourself a pedicure.  If you give yourself some me time and just make yourself feel good then your mind will feel good.
  • Go for a drink with friends.
  • Write in a journal.
  • Listen to music.
  • Go for a walk.
  • Organise your time effectively and realistically – If you say on a Saturday you will revise for five hours, you probably won’t do it, so if you say on Saturday you will raise for two hours, thats more realistic, and if you do more than that, you will feel more motivate and accomplished. If you say you will do five and you do less, then you will feel shit and unaccomplished.
  • Set SMART goals – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Specific.

This post was just to highlight that people do say it’s a breeze, but it isn’t at all. You will be stressed, but it is worth it, the people you meet at uni, the experiences you have, the work you do, it is amazing.

Just be weary that it will be tough but it will be completely worth it.

Love

Katy Nells xoxo